The goal is to be a better human and living a life of love is the focus for February.

First step – love your damn self! You cant give your own energy or time to anyone else if you don’t take care of #1. This means that you have to take some time to get to know yourself.

Throughout the week take notice of what you’re saying and doing and most importantly taking note of all of your shit. Take time to reflect on how you are showing up for those around you. Are you being a good and kind human?

Do you understand what you need? Do you know what drains and charges you? Take some time to figure that out first.

Sometimes it is hard to look at yourself objectively. When I first started this process I was having a hard time being honest with myself about what I needed. Thank goodness for the internet as there were so many online personality tests I could take in hopes that they would be more enlightening.

I first came across the 16 Personalities quiz back in 2011. The quiz was one of the easier ones I’ve taken and I found their explanations easy to understand and really helpful.

I took this test again more recently and it showed me the below results.

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To see the rest of my results and to take the test yourself go here 

You don’t have to take this specific quiz to learn about yourself, but if you haven’t done one of these types before I strongly suggest it. It’s also important to remember that your results aren’t law. Use the information it gives you as a starting point for understanding what you need.

Based on my results it let me know that I am more introverted and my energy is restored by doing solidarity type of activities.

If I have a heavy week of being around people and my best friend asks me to hang on my one day off there is a high chance I’m going to say no. It’s nothing personal I just know that I want to give my friend the best version of me and I can’t do that if I’m already peopled out!

If I find myself sitting in negative space, I try to refocus my energy on things I can control and I jump head first into self-care mode.

Loving yourself isn’t vanity it’s sanity

I start with some deep breaths and I turn to activities that engage all of my senses. This keeps me grounded and it distracts me from whatever is stressing me out.

Sometimes my self-care is as simple as planning in my bullet journal, listening to a record, a cup of tea or a book. I try my best to keep technology out of it cuz it is usually more of a distraction.

If I’m going into deep self-care mode I’m waking up early to go to a movie by myself. I would make a nice lunch at home, read a book and have a bath. Wrap it up with a meal with friends/family and I am good to re-enter the world.

Live Love February:

– Figure out what drains and charges you

– Schedule in self-care time for yourself at least once a week

Share your journey using #kdclivelove so I can steal some more self-care ideas from you!

Let me know in the comments below how you are going to live more love this month.

And if you are looking for more life lessons start Over here